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   Genesis 2:24 provides us with a fundamental lesson in marriage relationship. From the beginning, the man was commanded to leave his father and mother, cleave to his wife, and the two should become one … in flesh, yes, but also in mind, speech, and judgment (1 Cor. 1:10). This is an important principle in marriage, because how can two walk together except they be agreed? (Amos 3:3). So, to that end wives are commanded to be subject to their husbands, seeing the husband is the head of the wife even as Yahshua is the head of the Assembly (Eph. 5:22-23).
   The husband, moreover, has responsibility come of his authority in the home to nourish and cherish his wife – that is, to bring his wife into Spiritual maturity – even as the Master, through the Holy Spirit, does the Assembly (Eph. 5:29).
   But what is a wife to do, if she finds herself having more understanding than her husband? (Psa. 119:99). Well, the one thing she is NOT to do, is usurp her husband’s authority (1 Tim. 2:12). For doing that, usually results in the husband and the wife striving about words to no profit (2 Tim. 2:14) instead of letting their communication be that which is good, useful to edifying (Eph. 4:29).
   Moreover, though the wife may present fervent in spirit (Rom. 12:11) and zealously affected (Gal. 4:18), yet her fervor and zeal may not be tempered with knowledge (Rom. 10:2) which still, puffs up (1 Cor. 8:1, 13:4). And besides, she knows nothing yet as she ought to know (1 Cor. 8:2). So, trying to convert her husband may have the undesirable outcome of provoking him (1 Cor. 13:5), to trample underfoot what she has come to treasure and then, he turning upon her (Matt. 7:6).
   Yahshua asserted He had not come to send peace but to reciprocally set a man at variance with his father, a daughter with her mother, and a daughter-in-law with her mother-in-law (Matt. 10:34-35). Interesting, that He did not come to set either a husband or a wife at variance with, and at enmity against the other (Rom. 8:6), because the husband and the wife were created to be ONE, even as He and His Father are ONE! We find in the Scriptures – in 1 Peter 3:1-2, 4-5 and 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 13-15 – the Apostles Paul and Peter had somewhat to say to both wives and to husbands.
   1 Peter 3:1-2, 4-5: Wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the Word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. … let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in Yahweh’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in Yahweh used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands.
   1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 13-15: To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Master): the wife should not separate from her husband (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife. To the rest I say (I, not the Master) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her: If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not under bondage. Yahweh has called you to peace.
   Now, before proceeding, a word concerning Verse 15. One of the failures of the Christian religion, is that there has been far too small an effort toward reconciling husbands and wives and restoring marriages, and far more in becoming a party to what Yahshua decried in Mark 10:9: What therefore Yah has joined together, let not man put asunder.
   Men of religion want to loose on earth what they presume will automatically be loosed in heaven (Matt. 16:19) … even if what has been charged from Heaven, is an immutable principle. “Not under bondage … called you to peace,” has far more to do with releasing one or the other partners in a marriage from striving to sanctify a marriage that will just not become subject to Yahweh’s workmanship. So, “not under bondage … called you to peace” CONTEXTUALLY, has nothing to do with divorce and remarriage – a subject already addressed in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and reiterated in Verse 27, Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife? Do not seek a wife. We might add here, the Scripture is adamant in affirming that a woman which has a husband is bound by the Law of Yahweh as long as he is living, and only death was intended by Yahweh to loose her from the marriage compact (Rom. 7:1-2).
   Now, having laid some foundation, we particularly address the question, “Would it be alright to accompany your husband to his church service but just not sing their hymns and to take communion with the congregation?”
   There is not so very much instruction that can be appropriated from Scripture to answer this question. However, in 2 Kings, Chapter 5, we read of Naaman (a Syrian military commander, but a leper) who had submitted himself to Elisha’s emmisary who appointed his immersion in the Jordan River seven times for a cleansing of his disease. Afterward, with gratitude for his recovery, he exclaimed, “… for your servant will henceforth offer neither burnt offering nor sacrifice to other gods, but to Yahweh. In this thing Yahweh pardon thy servant, that when my master goes into the house of Rimmon to worship there, and he leans on my hand … Yahweh pardon your servant in this thing” (2 Kings 5:17-18)
   For sure, accompanying your husband to Sunday services is not equivalent to inquiring how they worship (Deut. 12:30).
   So, established and settled in your persuasion the 7th Day is the Sabbath (Exod. 20:8-11; Deut. 5:12-15), and determined to observe it as a Set Apart Day according to statutes found in Leviticus 23:3 and Isaiah 58:13, and to invoke the Names of Yahweh and Yahshua in prayer and to reading Scripture and refraining from making Their Names of none effect in conversation (Exod. 20:7; Deut. 5:11), accompanying your husband might well be regarded a gesture toward seeking amelioration of your differences (1 Pet. 3:11).
   However, you should not contribute to, or participate in liturgical rites (singing, responsive readings, and taking communion with the congregation), lest you should bring a reproach upon your new found faith (2 Pet. 2:20; see also, Heb. 6:4-6).
   May you, together as a laborer with Yahshua (1 Cor. 3:9; 2 Cor. 6:1), become that light of the world (Matt. 5:14, John 8:12), in letting your light so shine before men, that they will glorify Abba Yahweh (Matt. 5:16).

-YAIY Elders

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